Random Ways to Boost Your Man's Self-Confidence

Let's face it, between taking care of house and kids and meeting everyone's basic needs, sometimes boosting your partner's self-esteem can get stuck on the back-burner. Here are a few simple, stress-free ways to make your man feel like a super-hero!

Now obviously you don't want to try to engage your man in a serious conversation about his awesomeness while he's trying to watch the big game on television or taking on the next "Big Boss" while playing X-Box 360... because that's just irritating, you know?

There are those quiet moments, though, perhaps while he's paused his game to ask you for an adult beverage where you can ask him a relevant question about his game such as: "Wow, your button mashing prowess is phenomenal, is the guy you're playing a super-hero or military genius?" While you're fetching his beer act like you are listening by uttering such phrases as: "Interesting!, Oh, how does that work?, Man, you're really good at this game!," and so on... this works even more phenomenally well if you're actually interested!

Another way to show interest while boosting your man's self-esteem is to ask him direct questions about sports programs / or sporting events that the two of you are viewing together. It taps into his role as "the guy," to explain the intricacies of the 4-3 defense and gets his testosterone flowing. This also works best if you can do it without your eyes glazing over within minutes, you actually have to show an interest in the sport he's watching.

Just like women crave compliments from their men, men likewise appreciate compliments from their women! The trick of it, though, is to make them honest compliments, sincere and random when the opportunity arises. Try to give your guy chances to receive compliments by asking him for help with small household duties or with the kids, then compliment him on how he handles the situation. If your man offers to help you with something without you having to ask, make sure to show your appreciation, it encourages him to think of your needs. One thing you definitely want to avoid is compliments that highlight what you know to be a weakness of your significant other. Complimenting something that makes your partner feel insecure is sure to backfire, even if you feel that you're trying to build his confidence. Instead focus on positive attributes you know your guy is proud of!

So, maybe "it" is the last thing on your mind. Perhaps it's been some time since you and your guy have done "it." The most frequent guy complaint I hear from my married male friends is that "it" hasn't happened in a long time... and before you object, no, they're not trying to cozy up to me in that way, they're just frustrated and venting or looking for some advice as to how to elicit a loving response from their partner. Let's face it... being intimate with one another is a huge part of being in a satisfied marriage or long-term committed relationship. While the rest of our single brethren are out there looking for someone to fill that gap for them, the only person your partner has is you! Just like guys should do their utmost best to fulfill their partners desires, women need to be as GGG, (Good Giving and Game,) as they can be, too. That is, if you don't want your partner straying into the fields of another woman's farm. Wow, that was truly a terrible analogy, my apologies, curse you Google Adsense!

I think a relationship works best when both partners agree to work at making each other happy. When you actively seek out ways to pleasure and please your partner you're making their happiness a priority in your life. Partners in life, you're facing this world together, you're not expecting one another to fulfill every need and desire, but to work together to make this lifetime more than bearable. Facing each day together, attempt to find one thing, one act of kindness that can lift his spirits. The old adage, actions speak louder than words, is never more true than when in a committed relationship! It doesn't have to be grand, one of my favorite ways to make the SO happy is to clear off the living room table before he gets home. It's so silly, but cleaning it, reorganizing the remotes, getting out the coasters for a beer when he sits down to watch his "sports talking guys," is something I know he really appreciates.

I think you'll find that as you work at making your partner happy, taking time out to accomplish random acts of kindness towards him, he will in turn look for little things to make your life easier. This kind of "pay it forward" attitude will get you and your partner through a lot of tough times. Making your man feel important is key, building up his self-esteem will bring the two of you closer and make him more emotionally available to you. This is going to lead to more emotional and physical intimacy on both sides of the relationship fence!